剡西礼义乡，其里曰柿园里，有童与丁为大家，皆朴茂，称善人。孺人童氏女也，少以第称，无讳。曾祖讳公衡。祖讳邦佐。考讳大任，妣马氏。孺人年二十一，归我伯兄，兄姓俞氏，讳公溥，世居新昌，晚寓于剡，人称曰寓轩先生。若子若孙，则寓轩志中具之矣。孺人生于嘉定戊辰(1208 年)五月十五日，卒于咸淳辛未 (1271 年)十一月十二日，越明年九月二十九日，归葬于新昌之丰乐乡九峰山独秀峰之原。湘奉二父柩合为一兆，又奉二母柩合为一兆，两峰相望，不能数丈，从初志也。初，吾父母在堂，兄弟受室者五人，常闻吾母之言，曰：“能婉容气顺，听侍一心，志耐苦淡者，惟家妇为最。”且曰： “非此妇不能相此儿也。”盖伯兄和易坦平，不治生产，座上之客常满，斗酒之需不时，孺人之事君子无倦色，无噫声也。保育其抱子，使有成；爱护其庶女，逾己出。孺人之尽母道，一于慈无纵弛也。呜呼！是可谓贤矣。余记曩昔，尝拜童母于堂，问吾家事，外及其女，曰：“是宜于尊章否？自其笄时，笾豆有训，盥馈有训，丝枲织紝有训，今奉嫔君子堂，阃仪或阙，则未亡人为曹大家罪人矣。”余观古者，家必有教，今于嫂氏见母善教，女善承教，顾不谓皆贤欤！葬日薄，湘莅请曰： “湘不天，甫脱父丧，又罹母戚，孤苦颠悴，曷报罔极！”余曰： “妇人无外事，姑述昔所闻，以塞尔悲。”湘遂伐石以掩诸圹。是 月 日。
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注；志石高 80 厘米，宽 53 厘米，青砂石。新昌县七星街道九峰寺村出土，新昌博物馆藏。
俞公美(1207~1278 年)，又名瑞，字仲志，号筹山，端平二年(1235 年)进士，官乐清县令、
庆元通判。俞浙(1215~1300 年)，又名公浙，字季渊，号默翁，开庆己未(1259 年)进士，官
殿中御史、大理寺少卿， 《宋史·贾似道传》载有其名，上表弹劾贾似道。
Epitaph of Lady Tong, Wife of Yu Gongpu (1208–1271)
In Shiyuanli Village in Liyi Township in the west of Shanzhou there are the two great clans of Tong and Ding, both renowned for their simplicity and virtue and regarded as philanthropists. Daughter of the Tong family, Lady Tong had no given name when young. Her great-grandfather’s name was Tong Gongheng, her grandfather’s Tong Bangzuo, and her father’s Tong Daren. Her mother came from the Ma family. Lady Tong married my elder brother Yu Gongpu, or Mr. Yuxuan as people call him, scholar of Xinchang, later dwelling in Shanzhou. Her children and grandchildren are all listed in Mr. Yuxuan’s epitaph. Lady Tong was born on the 15th day of the 5th lunar month, 1208, died on the 12th day of the 11th lunar month, 1271 and was buried on the 29th day of the 9th lunar month, 1272 on the plain at the foot of the Duxiu Peak, Jiufeng Mountain, Fengle Township, Xinchang County. Xiang interred his father and his uncle in one grave and his mother and his aunt in another, with two mounds facing each other across a short distance, fulfilling their wish. Before, when my parents still lived, their five sons married, and my mother often said, “
Among my daughters-in-law, only the eldest embodies gentle compliance, wholehearted service, and contentment in austerity!" She also said, “None other than this woman is a good match for this of my sons.” Indeed, Lady Tong perfectly matched her husband’s peaceful gentility and scholarly detachment from worldly cares. Though guests perpetually filled his hall and wine flowed freely, she served without weariness or complaint. She nurtured her stepson to accomplishment and raised the daughters of her husband’s concubine as her own blood – her motherly love for all the children never slackened. Oh, what true virtue!
I recall the visit I once paid to her mother. She asked about my family, and then she talked about her daughter, asking, “Is she suitable for my aunt?” She also said, "Since her hair-pinning ceremony, she has learned various rituals, women’s work, and humble service. Were she to fail in spousal duties, I would stand condemned before Ban Zhao’s spirit!" As the old saying goes, “In every good family there are moral instructions.” In Lady Tong I saw her mother’s excellent instructions and her own readiness to accept education. Both the mother and daughter were virtuous ladies.
When the burial date approached, her son Yu Xiang lamented, "Stricken by fate – newly – orphaned of father, now bereft of mother – how can I repay their boundless grace?" I replied, "For women whose deeds shine within households, let past testimonies soothe your grief." Thus, Xiang shaped this stele to go into the tomb. On this day of this month of this year.
Composed by Yu Gongmei, Court Gentleman for Spreading Integrity, Vice Prefect of Fengguo Army Wearing Crimson by Grace. Calligraphy by Yu Zhe, Grand Master for Propagating Instruction, Acting Prefect of Jiaxing Army Wearing Purple by Grace.
Note: Yu Gongmei (1207-1278), successful candidate in the 1235 Imperial Examination, Magistrate of Yueqing County, Vice Prefect of Qingyuan (today’s Ningbo). Yu Zhe (1215–1300), successful candidate in the 1259 Imperial Examination, Palace Censor and Deputy Minister of the Grand Court, who later impeached the notorious minister Jia Sidao (History of Song).
Stele: 80×53 cm, bluish sandstone. Excavated at Jiufengsi Village, Qixing Sub-district, Xinchang County. Housed in Xinchang Museum.